LisaKinVA Posted November 30, 2012 Share Posted November 30, 2012 MIL sent me an e-mail...telling me what I need to do. In it, she says, "I know I'm overstepping, but...." And yeah, she's overstepping. Apparently, it's okay to overstep when you know you're doing it. :thumbdown: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted November 30, 2012 Share Posted November 30, 2012 MIL sent me an e-mail...telling me what I need to do. In it, she says, "I know I'm overstepping, but...." And yeah, she's overstepping. Apparently, it's okay to overstep when you know you're doing it. :thumbdown: Yeah that is right up there with, "no offense, but....." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted November 30, 2012 Share Posted November 30, 2012 *snort* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted November 30, 2012 Share Posted November 30, 2012 Right up there with..."It's probably none of my business, but....." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zebra Posted November 30, 2012 Share Posted November 30, 2012 I think this requires a "I know I am being rude, but, stuff it." It's okay to reply with this because you SAID you were being rude! :laugh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melissad2 Posted November 30, 2012 Share Posted November 30, 2012 I think this requires a "I know I am being rude, but, stuff it." It's okay to reply with this because you SAID you were being rude! :laugh: :thumbup: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted November 30, 2012 Share Posted November 30, 2012 'I know you'll be mad at me...' "I know it's none of my business...' 'I know I shouldn't say anything...' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elinor Everywhere Posted November 30, 2012 Share Posted November 30, 2012 Love those kinds of sayings (not). After watching a few seasons of Ameican Idol, my then-10yo dd was the queen of "I don't mean to be rude, but..." Drove me nuts. I wanted to respond "I don't mean to be a mean mom, but...." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted November 30, 2012 Share Posted November 30, 2012 "No offense, but you are overstepping." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danestress Posted November 30, 2012 Share Posted November 30, 2012 MIL sent me an e-mail...telling me what I need to do. In it, she says, "I know I'm overstepping, but...." And yeah, she's overstepping. Apparently, it's okay to overstep when you know you're doing it. :thumbdown: "thank you so much for acknowledging that this is overstepping. I know a lot of mother-in-law are oblivious to when they are meddling, and I am glad you recognize when you are doing it." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Georgiana Daniels Posted November 30, 2012 Share Posted November 30, 2012 MIL sent me an e-mail...telling me what I need to do. In it, she says, "I know I'm overstepping, but...." And yeah, she's overstepping. Apparently, it's okay to overstep when you know you're doing it. :thumbdown: It's just like say, "No offense, but _______" --it's the supposedly polite way to say something offensive. Depending on what kind of relationship you have and what the consequences will be, call her out on it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted November 30, 2012 Share Posted November 30, 2012 Is it good advice? I mean, if it is, I'd take it even if it is overstepping for her to have given it to you. If not, I'd just ignore it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
besroma Posted November 30, 2012 Share Posted November 30, 2012 "You know I don't usually speak up about these things....." (but does every single time!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jujsky Posted November 30, 2012 Share Posted November 30, 2012 I think this requires a "I know I am being rude, but, stuff it." It's okay to reply with this because you SAID you were being rude! :laugh: Or an "I don't mean to be rude," (oh, you KNOW you totally do) "but, yeah -- bless your heart -- you ARE overstepping." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unicorn. Posted November 30, 2012 Share Posted November 30, 2012 MIL sent me an e-mail...telling me what I need to do. In it, she says, "I know I'm overstepping, but...." And yeah, she's overstepping. Apparently, it's okay to overstep when you know you're doing it. :thumbdown: Well, at least she admits it! Unlike some people (mil) who don't think they are doing/saying anything wrong and get uber defensive if you even look at them like they did/said anything wrong and then go on to tell everyone she knows how she isn't allowed to even call anymore, etc. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted November 30, 2012 Share Posted November 30, 2012 "thank you so much for acknowledging that this is overstepping. I know a lot of mother-in-law are oblivious to when they are meddling, and I am glad you recognize when you are doing it." Perfect response!!! :thumbup: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LisaKinVA Posted November 30, 2012 Author Share Posted November 30, 2012 Is it good advice? I mean, if it is, I'd take it even if it is overstepping for her to have given it to you. If not, I'd just ignore it. No...not advice, but just feeling the need to tell me I need to confess and repent (things are tight financially, I've been looking for a paying job, dh and I made some decisions based upon the information we *knew* at the time, and well, there was some information that we had *assumed* was correct that wasn't...but whatever, we aren't running around blaming, complaining, and pouting, just doing what we need to to make it right). It's one of those..."Umm, you might want to get the log out of your own eyes, first" kind of things. I believe God uses all things for His glory, even my failings. He uses my failings to enable me to help others avoid the same troubles when I can. He uses them to help us guide our children to making better decisions than we did. God has also provided at the very moment of our greatest need this past year. Some might argue some of the provision was simply coincidence, but considering we didn't know it was coming and weren't expecting it, I see God's hand in it. I have an interview on Monday (for a job I'll probably get, but it's not the job I want). If the job is offered (and it probably will be), I'll take it. If the job I want (that I've also applied for) is given to me, well...so much the better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LisaKinVA Posted November 30, 2012 Author Share Posted November 30, 2012 Well, at least she admits it! Unlike some people (mil) who don't think they are doing/saying anything wrong and get uber defensive if you even look at them like they did/said anything wrong and then go on to tell everyone she knows how she isn't allowed to even call anymore, etc. I have to admit, her admission of the overstepping was a first in the past 15 years, prior to this she would simply overstep and wonder why *anyone* could possibly be upset. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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