cajunrose Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 We sold our home and have to be out in 3 weeks (moving 12 hours away). My husband injured himself on Thanksgiving. Tore 2-3 major ligaments in his leg and possibly the cartilage too. He needs surgery to rebuild all of that. The Orthopedist can't even READ the MRI until NEXT Wednesday and then surgery the week after. A full 3 weeks after the injury. We are trying everything we can to find another doctor, push this one, etc. This doctor's wife left him this week and his insurance clerk quit. In the meantime, my husband's leg is purple and blue, he is up at night because that's when it hurts AND we are trying to pack to move. Oh, did I mention that my hand is broken and my I need my gallbladder out...have major indigestion pain/stomach issues because of it? Oh, and we had a water pipe bust in our wall (home we just sold) and a hole had to be cut in our wall to fix it...and now that has to be fixed. I'm at a loss. I'm in tears. I can't do everything on my own..we don't have the money to hire out. My husband isn't bedridden thankfully and is doing what he can, but he still can't lift things or move things. I'm worried about injuring the leg further also. Really, I'm just scared (never been through anything like this medically in our marriage), tired, overwhelmed, and in pain myself. Thanks for listening to me whine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 I think the only way to get through times like these is to take one thing at a time. Can you make a list? What has to happen first? Is it easier to deal with the wall after your stuff is moved out? Do you have local friends or family who could help? Something like the doctor not reading the MRI yet, that's frustrating, but not in your control. What is in your control? What can you do? Maybe you can start a list of things that you and the kiddo can do and prioritize them? It would be a starting point. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 This doctor's wife left him this week and his insurance clerk quit. Deep breath. Perhaps it's time you leave the doctor too. You have already said you are calling around for another surgeon. Prayers coming your way you will find one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest inoubliable Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 Call the place where the MRI was performed and ask them who can help you. They may be able to recommend a doctor who can give you the results quickly. Realistically, even your regular doctor could look at the reports and let you know what's going on. Don't let the surgeon get away with this garbage. His personal problems are unfortunate, but his patients need to come first - and if they don't, you need a new doctor IMMEDIATELY. Another option is to take your dh to the ER and let them call for the MRI results for you. It sounds like your dh needs help now, not a week or more from now, so you may need to take action immediately by getting him to the hospital and letting them find a doctor for you. I'm so sorry you're feeling so overwhelmed. I'm sure any of us would feel the same way in your situation. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 With an injury like this, this delay is absolutely unacceptable. Sounds like a lot on your plate, and I am so sorry. I think you should move heaven and earth to get a reading on that MRI though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dbmamaz Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 Wow, :grouphug: .. .and thanks for making me realize my problems arent so big!! My daughter tried to OD saturday night and got out of the hospital yesterday, and then my husband started freaking out about money because of the tuition he paid for her already and she might not finish her degree, plus the hospital bill . . . and i'm ready to strangle him cuz this is NOT the time to be fighting over money! is there anyone you can ask for some help? family, friends, church - even ask on the local homeschool board if anyone can come lend a hand or a strong teen or something? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 Prayers and good thoughts that your family's medical issues are resolved. Is there anyone you can ask for help with the repairs and moving? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 Call the place where the MRI was performed and ask them who can help you. They may be able to recommend a doctor who can give you the results quickly. Realistically, even your regular doctor could look at the reports and let you know what's going on. Don't let the surgeon get away with this garbage. His personal problems are unfortunate, but his patients need to come first - and if they don't, you need a new doctor IMMEDIATELY. Another option is to take your dh to the ER and let them call for the MRI results for you. It sounds like your dh needs help now, not a week or more from now, so you may need to take action immediately by getting him to the hospital and letting them find a doctor for you. I'm so sorry you're feeling so overwhelmed. I'm sure any of us would feel the same way in your situation. :grouphug: I second the ER suggestion. As you all know I just went through a nightmare with my dh and his medical issues....I was VERY close to insisting he go straight to ER and begged to be admitted. His was not an injury though and I think it might not have worked in our case...I think it WILL work in your case. Also, please be sure to TELL any doctor's office that you call all that you are going through...just as you did in your post here. When the incompetent GP finally referred dh to a gastro specialist the appt was 3 weeks out!. I called the gastro office and kindly pleaded for a closer appt....I told her he had not worked in 10 weeks and we were desperate. She got him in the next week. As far as your gall bladder problem, I know a good gastroenterologist and an equally good surgeon to recommend to you when you get to town! Have you had a Hida scan yet? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Just Kate Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 Wow, :grouphug: .. .and thanks for making me realize my problems arent so big!! My daughter tried to OD saturday night and got out of the hospital yesterday, and then my husband started freaking out about money because of the tuition he paid for her already and she might not finish her degree, plus the hospital bill . . . and i'm ready to strangle him cuz this is NOT the time to be fighting over money! is there anyone you can ask for some help? family, friends, church - even ask on the local homeschool board if anyone can come lend a hand or a strong teen or something? Oh my...prayers for you, your daughter, and your entire family! To the OP, I am sorry you are going through so much. I agree with the others that getting that MRI read sounds very important. You have received some good advice, so I will just :grouphug: . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cajunrose Posted November 28, 2012 Author Share Posted November 28, 2012 After making phone calls today, seems like a few weeks is the norm. *sigh* He is getting an MRI tomorrow. My plan is to get him to call the office in the afternoon and basically force them to put him in somewhere to get him in next week for surgery. We'll see how that goes. He's a stubborn one, my husband. I want him to take a stand for himself...but he thinks that the hand we are dealt with the doc is the hand we are dealt. I'm more of the opinion that if you try hard enough, you can get things done. I do have friends that can help us but it's hard to know when and how they can help..they are just a phone call away and hopefully we can make it work. We can pack all the way up to the surgery and have most of the 'stuff' packed and then my parents will come down and help with the final move. Scarlett: We bought a place in Inola...2 miles from my parents house. We are going to be about 20 minutes from where you are. I would love for you to come out for coffee/tea one day after we get settled!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cajunrose Posted November 28, 2012 Author Share Posted November 28, 2012 Wow, :grouphug: .. .and thanks for making me realize my problems arent so big!! My daughter tried to OD saturday night and got out of the hospital yesterday, and then my husband started freaking out about money because of the tuition he paid for her already and she might not finish her degree, plus the hospital bill . . . and i'm ready to strangle him cuz this is NOT the time to be fighting over money! is there anyone you can ask for some help? family, friends, church - even ask on the local homeschool board if anyone can come lend a hand or a strong teen or something? Oh hun...nobody's problems are any worse than anybody else's IMO...we all muddle through the best way we know how. Your family is in my thoughts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cajunrose Posted November 28, 2012 Author Share Posted November 28, 2012 As far as your gall bladder problem, I know a good gastroenterologist and an equally good surgeon to recommend to you when you get to town! Have you had a Hida scan yet? I haven't had anything at all done yet. I keep having gallbladder attacks though, crazy bad indigestion, heartburn, bowel issues. I haven't been to the doctor yet. I'm trying (unsuccessfully) to control it with diet until I can get up there. I may well need a referral from you in a couple of months. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bagel270 Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 Try some multi enzyme tablets from Walmart. Take two after every meal. They taste nasty but they help. And don't eat anything that tastes good. Gallbladders are annoying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justLisa Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 Oh my I'm sorry. Maybe if you are comfortable stating your approximate location we can see if someone is close enough to help you in some way. I know I would. At least bring dinner or something to ease the burden, you know? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DaffodilDreams Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 I'm sorry so many things have gone wrong at once. I can't help with the gallbladder, the packing, or the hole in the wall, but I can tell you something that will help your broken hand and your dh's injury - comfrey. Right now, you'll most likely have to rely on comfrey root since the leaves should be dying out or already be gone, but the root works great, too. You can find comfrey root online or at natural health stores. Steep a few tablespoons of chopped root in about 4 - 6 C of boiling water overnight. No, the water doesn't have to boil all night. Just pour the boiling water over the root, cover, and leave on counter all night. Soak cloths in the tea in the am and wrap around the injury. Secure with ace bandage. Wear for several hours. Repeat soaking and reapply as often as needed. You can store the tea in the fridge for a few days or freeze in ice cube trays or muffin tins for future use. Use for several days up to a few weeks depending on injury. You should feel relief by the next day, but continue to reapply daily for several days to promote healing. If comfrey oil is all you can find, you can use this, too (just rub it directly on the injured area), but it isn't quite as effective and would require more frequent applications. Hope things start to look up soon! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elinor Everywhere Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 Wow :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I am SO sorry - I can't imagine even going through half of that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted November 29, 2012 Share Posted November 29, 2012 After making phone calls today, seems like a few weeks is the norm. *sigh* He is getting an MRI tomorrow. My plan is to get him to call the office in the afternoon and basically force them to put him in somewhere to get him in next week for surgery. We'll see how that goes. He's a stubborn one, my husband. I want him to take a stand for himself...but he thinks that the hand we are dealt with the doc is the hand we are dealt. I'm more of the opinion that if you try hard enough, you can get things done. I do have friends that can help us but it's hard to know when and how they can help..they are just a phone call away and hopefully we can make it work. We can pack all the way up to the surgery and have most of the 'stuff' packed and then my parents will come down and help with the final move. Scarlett: We bought a place in Inola...2 miles from my parents house. We are going to be about 20 minutes from where you are. I would love for you to come out for coffee/tea one day after we get settled!! Yes! That would be awesome. So cool that you bought so close to your parents. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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