I was one of the parents who pictured my children working independently--especially in high school. I pictured my oldest would be so well trained that I would be able to give him a book and have him complete the course work on his own. AND he would do this happily! And to just to throw in even more "pie in the sky" he would get to the point where he would tell me what book he wanted to study from! So I would no longer even have to research!
My experience has been that kids do become a bit more independent after they are able to read well. You can give them a worksheet and they can read the directions and problems on the worksheet--I'm thinking along the lines of math here. All kids still need an interactive teacher, if they are going to really learn the material.
And I've also found that as children enter the logic and rhetoric stages, their need for one-on-one time increases once again. I've had to increase one-on-one time as we learn logic, how to outline and write, how to analyze lit, ect. And again in the rhetoric stages, lots of new skills that need one-on-one time to teach.
I picture it like a wave--the crest is right when the kids seem to have mastered that stage's (grammar, logic, rhetoric) skills and then down, down, down they go into the next stage where lots of hand holding is needed to climb back up to the next crest.
And that dream of my oldest working independently through high school--we hit it his senior year! He choose all of his classes (all outsourced at that point) as well as lots of other ways to productively fill his time.
So if your child isn't working independently, it's okay--and normal!
Edited by missmoe, 27 November 2011 - 03:38 PM.