Paz Posted May 4, 2008 Share Posted May 4, 2008 My son is not quite there yet but he is 18 and just finished high school by taking duel enrollment courses this semester. Now that the year is over he has some free time and is staying out later and later in the eve. I know where he is and I trust him but I don't sleep well when he is out. How did/do you handle giving them freedom and still getting some sleep. sleep is very important and necessary to me. LOL! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plaid Dad Posted May 4, 2008 Share Posted May 4, 2008 This was one of many places where I think my mom was too lenient with me. When I was home from college I was in and out at all hours, and I know it affected her sleep. I think it's fair to ask an adult child living with you to be in by a certain hour because coming in later disturbs the rest of the family - i.e., you! I'd talk it over with him and be realistic about the curfew, but... your house, your rules. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janet in WA Posted May 4, 2008 Share Posted May 4, 2008 Our sons have always lived away at college, where they set their own hours and went wherever they pleased with whomever they pleased. I had no problem with their doing the same when/if they were home for breaks. The only time it affected my sleep was if they made noise when they left or came in. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ereks mom Posted May 4, 2008 Share Posted May 4, 2008 I think it's fair to ask an adult child living with you to be in by a certain hour because coming in later disturbs the rest of the family - i.e., you! I'd talk it over with him and be realistic about the curfew, but... your house, your rules. I don't sleep if all my chicks aren't safely in the nest. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mama Lynx Posted May 4, 2008 Share Posted May 4, 2008 Sit down with him and have a frank discussion. Let him know that you know he's responsible, and you want to treat him like an adult, but that you have trouble sleeping when he's out late. Put it to him as a problem for the two of you to solve together. "How can we work this out, so that you feel that you have your freedom, you know you have my trust, but I have my sleep?" If he won't work with you, then you can always institute a "my house, my rules" curfew. When I came home from college, I had a curfew. I argued and railed against it. I didn't think it was fair, at all. Finally, my father admitted to me that it probably wasn't fair, but that that didn't matter to him. Yes, he knew that at college I managed myself and stayed out as late as I wanted, but at home he still felt like my parent and in charge. Once he admitted how he felt, and that it probably wasn't fair, I was actually much more understanding and willing to go along with the rules. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anna Posted May 4, 2008 Share Posted May 4, 2008 Both of my college kids are too busy with work hours to enjoy late nights out. They know that if they don't work, then there is no money for tuition, books, cars... anything they need while in college. What about a job for your college kid? Nothing like work to make a kid crave sleep :thumbup: . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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