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#1 Prairie~Phlox

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Posted 09 February 2011 - 09:55 PM

Just curious, I found a new dr. that I really like and dh has an appointment tomorrow as well because he's never gone for a check up or had a blood panel done and what the heck am I paying insurance for if we don't use it? Just wondering if spouses usually have the same dr. for general practitioner. Also, do you know your parents health history very well? I know my mom had breast cancer back in 95, but I was in college and had just gotten married and didn't live near them, so I really don't know all of the details. I've tried to get her to send me all of her health information, but she always says she will and never does. Dh doesn't really know his parents health information very well either. So I'm just wondering if you know your parents health history?

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Posted 09 February 2011 - 10:00 PM

I have a pretty good and thorough idea of my parents' health histories. My dh and I do not have the same doctor. He prefers a man and I prefer a woman.

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Posted 09 February 2011 - 10:07 PM

Dh and I know our parents' medical histories quite well. We've had a lot of bad experiences with doctors that don't care enough to take the time to listen and have been nearly killed by simple misdiagnosis so we don't even have a primary care physician.

I have a specialist who is a dear friend and who is practicing overseas. He treats me when he is home and orders tests from a local hospital and has the results faxed to him.

Dh hasn't seen a physician since 1999 when he and dd went to parent/child space camp and he had to have a physical and a doctor's statement of health in order to try out the simulators. He went to a walk-in clinic for that. We kind of have a general idea of someone we'd go to if dear friend was not home from his free clinic abroad.

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#4 SilverMoonlight

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Posted 09 February 2011 - 10:09 PM

Yep - DH & I go to the same Dr. She's great.

Where we lived before (for 19 years) our whole family went to the same Dr. We miss him a lot. My Mother still sees him.

I know my parents health histories quite well. I'd say DH knows his parents moderately well.

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Posted 09 February 2011 - 10:10 PM

Yes and yes. Before we moved to a different state, my parents had the same doctor as us too. They were looking to change doctors and we mentioned how well we liked ours.

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Posted 09 February 2011 - 10:11 PM

Dh and I go to different doctors. His is a personal friend of ours. I just don't want to drive 1/2 hour to get to the doctor when I have a perfectly good one 5-10 minutes away.

I know the important health history stuff on my side of the family. I know some of it on dh's side. I need to know his side so I can fill out forms on the kids. :blink: It's hard keeping it straight sometimes. I can fill out forms for all of us if I need to. I'm sure there's stuff I don't know, but I do ok.

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Posted 09 February 2011 - 10:12 PM

DH, DC, & I all have the same family practitioner. I have a fairly strong grasp on my parents' & grandparents' health histories, but DH was adopted as an infant. We do know (from meeting his bio brother within the last few years) that he does have a family history of Schizophrenia & Crohn's disease. Comforting, no?

#8 Margaret in CO

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Posted 09 February 2011 - 10:39 PM

Yes, I'm all too familiar with my parents' health histories--my mom passed away 32 years ago and I'll probably lose my dad tonight. He's rallied once again, but I think this is it--he was 96 a few weeks ago!

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Posted 09 February 2011 - 10:50 PM

Yes, I'm all too familiar with my parents' health histories--my mom passed away 32 years ago and I'll probably lose my dad tonight. He's rallied once again, but I think this is it--he was 96 a few weeks ago!


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Posted 09 February 2011 - 10:51 PM

Dh and I have the same dr and talk freely about our histories. We each know our parents' history as well because there is cancer, diabetes and heart disease.

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Posted 09 February 2011 - 10:53 PM

DH and I didn't have the same doctor for a long time, but we do now. His retired, and I like mine so much that he wanted to see him, too. He wasn't taking new patients but agreed to see DH because he likes to keep families (and probably insurance) together.

We're both very familiar with our family health history. Three out of my four grandparents are still living (one out of four for DH), and even when my father or DH's dad try to hide health problems, our stepmoms out them. My mother and my MIL both love to hash out their health problems with DH and I, so we couldn't possibly miss anything there. :tongue_smilie:

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Posted 09 February 2011 - 10:55 PM

Yes, I'm all too familiar with my parents' health histories--my mom passed away 32 years ago and I'll probably lose my dad tonight. He's rallied once again, but I think this is it--he was 96 a few weeks ago!


I'm so sorry.

I do know my mom's health history. DH and I don't use the same doc. If there is time, I go see my general doc. For "female" issues, I see my gyno. If I get sick on a weekend, I bug DH until he calls in a prescription for me.

When he gets sick, he has a co-worker call in a prescription for him. Any check-ups for work are done at the med school's clinic (since he's at a childrens hospital, the clinic there won't fit him in).

The money sucks, but the perks are pretty handy. Our children do have a pediatrician and he usually gets us in for appointments pretty quickly.

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Posted 09 February 2011 - 10:57 PM

Dh and I use the same dr. Actually several of my family members use him too. I do know my mother's history and my grandparents as well...bio dad not so much.

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Posted 09 February 2011 - 11:30 PM

Dh and I did share the same GP, but he moved to Peru :( this summer (for mission work, so sad for me, but WONDERFUL ministry). Now I have no GP and neither does dh. Likely, if we get another GP, mine will be in the town where we live and his will be in the town where he works (due to daytime schedules).

I know my mom's health history really well. I know that my dad hates doctors, refuses to see one, and God only knows the number of things that could be wrong with him.

Dh's dad died at 49 of a massive heart attack. His mom's health history we sort of know...but she is going into dementia and that has been the biggest thing so far. Dh's family is riddled with dementia and Alzheimers. :(

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Posted 09 February 2011 - 11:33 PM

yes to all. I know my mom's very well, my bio dad's not at all, and I know my Dh's, my MIL and FIL. And my grandparents.

He's been my dr since I was 8. And his new addition (dr) to the practice graduated two years ahead of me and we were in marching band together:tongue_smilie:. He politely doesn't remind me what a hell raiser I was.

They take care of my Dh and all of my kids, and my parents.

I love them very much.

#16 Jean in Newcastle

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Posted 09 February 2011 - 11:41 PM

Dh and I share some Drs. (primary and naturopathic) but not others (gynecologist and endocrinologist). I know the basics of my parent's health histories and the basics of his because of filling out forms for my children. I'm sure that dh knows the basics of his parent's health histories and at least some of the basics of my parent's.

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Posted 10 February 2011 - 12:10 AM

Well, we're an unusual case here because my DH is a physician. I think I can remember him going to the doc exactly one time in the 13 yrs we've been married and that's because he had to have a physical for med school or residency or something. If he needs an Rx, he just has a colleague write something for him. The kids and I have a different family practitioner that we go to once in a while (mainly because I don't want our medical records available for the viewing pleasure of all of his office staff). We see her almost entirely for well-child stuff, LOL. DH handles almost all the sick stuff that comes up, and we've been fortunate that the kids haven't had anything that would require a specialist. I have an OB/GYN as well.

#18 m0mmaBuck

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Posted 10 February 2011 - 12:11 AM

We don't have the same docs or even the same clinics. Stupid military medicine. Dh and DSS are in the Family Med clinic but on different "teams" and therefore have completely different teams of docs. I am in the Internal Medicine clinic due to my history of cancer and have a completely useless doctor. Useless. The two younger kids are in pediatrics and have different docs as well. Just stupid all around.

Re: family medical history, I know my family history very well. Dh knows his relatively well but seems to have selective memory on certain aspects.

#19 Parrothead

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Posted 10 February 2011 - 12:16 AM

I know some. There isn't much important stuff. I suppose we come from fairly good stock. And yes, dh and I see the same medical practitioner. She is a PA. We've never met the doctor she works under.

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Posted 10 February 2011 - 12:27 AM

I know my parents' history. My dad died two years ago of pancreatic cancer and I was very involved in his Dr's appts. and care. Before that, he was healthy.

I have adopted children who's family medical history I don't know. I always just write a n/a or adopted on it.

DH and I go to the same clinic now but have not always gone to the same Dr. (or clinic). Hasn't been a big deal to us. Now our whole family goes to this clinic (double-boarded in internal medicine and pediatrics) and it's nice when we need to make more than one appt. at a time.

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Posted 10 February 2011 - 12:44 AM

My entire family uses the same dr. and he knows us well. If one of us is in he will ask about everyone else especially if they have some particular problem. For instance, my hubby is trying to lose weight so if I am in the dr. will ask how he is doing or if my hubby is in the dr. will ask how my pain is. My hubby and I have both signed forms allowing the dr. to discuss our medical situations with each other. We both know our parents and grandparents medical histories so the dr. has a pretty good knowledge of the entire family's medical history. I would say it is helpful because the dr. knows to check for certain things, knows about allergies or medicines that may be more helpful because someone else in the family responded to them. This works really well for our family.

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Posted 10 February 2011 - 01:04 AM

I have more information about my family's medical history than dh has about his, but even he has a rough idea.

We don't see the same doctors. He wants someone to tell him what to do. I want someone who recognises that they are not the boss and answers questions properly. That sounds a bit pathetic, doesn't it? "You're not the boss of me!" But some seem to think they are.

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#23 Jean in Newcastle

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Posted 10 February 2011 - 01:16 AM

I have more information about my family's medical history than dh has about his, but even he has a rough idea.

We don't see the same doctors. He wants someone to tell him what to do. I want someone who recognises that they are not the boss and answers questions properly. That sounds a bit pathetic, doesn't it? "You're not the boss of me!" But some seem to think they are.

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You want a Dr. who sees your health as a cooperative effort:001_smile: That's the kind of Dr. I want too.

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Posted 10 February 2011 - 02:00 AM

You want a Dr. who sees your health as a cooperative effort:001_smile: That's the kind of Dr. I want too.


I want a doctor who understands that my health and my children's health is actually my responsibility and I am, despite appearances and the suburb I live in, clever enough to know why I have shown up in their office. It cracks me up how a doctor you've never met before can think they know more about your body or your kids' bodies than you do. Or when the doc won't tell you anything you except what you already found in a google search before you went. I miss the doctor I had before we moved!

I had a weird experience at a pharmacy last year. I went in wanting something for a chest infection because it wasn't going to work itself out. They offered me a cough suppressant, which I thought was odd, so I said I'd only come down for some echinacea or something. The pharmacist and her assistant looked at each other, said "Ohhhhh" and offered me a vitamin booster syrup thing made of natural ingredients that worked better than plain echinacea. Why didn't they offer me that in the first place? :confused: Weird. Anyway, I'm glad to have found a good pharmacist :)

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Edited by Rosie_0801, 10 February 2011 - 02:03 AM.


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Posted 10 February 2011 - 07:06 AM

We both have different doctors, we both often try different doctors, but we do have a medical centre that we both prefer- and we don't mind so much which doctor we get there. They are a little bit alternative- they don't look at you too funny if you want to do an alternative vaccination schedule, that sort of thing. We live in a fairly alternative area and there is another medical centre nearby that has doctors who actually specialise in nutritional medicine, alternate treatments to depression, chronic fatigue, that sort of thing- but it costs much more to see them so its not our first choice.
The truth is even these doctors look down their noses just a little bit, and are a teeny bit patronising, but they are the best I have found. I have given up telling them what I understand or my training or anything like that- it only makes it worse- I just go in there with a specific purpose, milk their brain, expertise, access to testing, or ability to prescribe something strong- and get out again.

Yes, we both have a general idea of our parent's health history. They generally want to know things like diabetes, heart disease, breast/prostate cancer- the big ones- because these diseases have hereditary factors to them. I don't think they need to know that your mother had measles at age 4 or broke her arm as a teenager. When I was having a breast check recently they wanted to know if there was breast cancer OR prostate cancer in my family because they are both related to breast cancer susceptibility.

Edited by Peela, 10 February 2011 - 07:15 AM.


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Posted 10 February 2011 - 07:08 AM

Yes and yes.

#27 MamaT

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Posted 10 February 2011 - 07:12 AM

We go to the same practice, but see different doctors. I prefer to see a female doctor while he prefers to see a male doctor. I know my parents medical history pretty well, and my dh knows his parents well enough.

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Posted 10 February 2011 - 08:46 AM

Neither one of us has a PCP, but we do see the same dentist.

I know my parents' medical histories.

Margaret, so sorry that your dad isn't well. I hope he rallies.

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Posted 10 February 2011 - 08:57 AM

No and yes. My parents also died young, so I'm too well aware of family history. I prefer female docs, and dh prefers male.

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Posted 10 February 2011 - 09:08 AM

Yes we have the same doctor - and luckily, he's friendly & caring & speaks english. In our town, that's not easy to find, especially the last part. I went to five docs here before I found one I could converse with - that's sorta important with medical stuff eh?!)

No, we don't know all of our parents' medical histories. I know my mother's fairly well, but almost nothing about my father in that respect (or in many other respects,for that matter). Dh knows a bit about his mother's history, and pretty much nothing about his father's -- very similar to me.

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Posted 10 February 2011 - 09:17 AM

Yes, I'm all too familiar with my parents' health histories--my mom passed away 32 years ago and I'll probably lose my dad tonight. He's rallied once again, but I think this is it--he was 96 a few weeks ago!


:grouphug: Here's to hoping Nature will be Kind. I was ever so pleased she was for my old, old parents.