Bedtime for 10th grader

[choirfarm]

I'm just curious.. what time do you make your 15/16yo go to bed on a school night? weekend? I'll wait to see some responses before I tell you what we are doing.

 

Christine

[Mad Jenny Flint]

Goes to bed around 10 or 10:30 during the week and maybe a bit later on weekends. Very rarely after midnight.

[flyingiguana]

No earlier than midnight. She gets most of her work done in the afternoon and evening. Mornings are not good for her.

 

This works well for me too, as I then have the mornings to myself to get my work done.

 

Actually, I didn't really answer your question. You wondered what time I make her go to bed. I don't make her go to bed. It's a pointless exercise. She wouldn't go to sleep before her body was ready anyway. She'd just lay there, bored. Anyway, by 15, my kids have seemed ready to take responsibility for their own bed times. They suffer the consequences if they don't get enough sleep. And I don't feel like staying up past my bedtime to enforce their bedtime.

[Nissi]

Bedtime is between 9:30 and 10.00pm.

[JennW in SoCal]

Actually, I didn't really answer your question. You wondered what time I make her go to bed. I don't make her go to bed. It's a pointless exercise. She wouldn't go to sleep before her body was ready anyway. She'd just lay there, bored. Anyway, by 15, my kids have seemed ready to take responsibility for their own bed times. They suffer the consequences if they don't get enough sleep. And I don't feel like staying up past my bedtime to enforce their bedtime.

 

:iagree:

 

My 15yo has a 7am math class 3 days a week. He has said there is no point in going to be early on those nights before math as he won't fall asleep, so he is up until midnight and just has 3 days a week with less sleep. It hasn't bothered him, hasn't affected his ability to function and behave in a civil manner.

 

The other mornings he sleeps until about 11am. I think one of the benefits of homeschooling is letting kids follow their internal clocks during the years of active growth.

[DebbS]

Both my 12yo and 15 yo goes to bed around 11:00 and get up between 7:30 and 8:00. On the weekends they stay up later and sleep in. I think that having the self-discipline to schedule enough to sleep is an important life skill that is often overlooked, hence so many adults are sleep deprived and suffer from it.

[flyingiguana]

:iagree:

 

My 15yo has a 7am math class 3 days a week. He has said there is no point in going to be early on those nights before math as he won't fall asleep, so he is up until midnight and just has 3 days a week with less sleep. It hasn't bothered him, hasn't affected his ability to function and behave in a civil manner.

 

The other mornings he sleeps until about 11am. I think one of the benefits of homeschooling is letting kids follow their internal clocks during the years of active growth.

 

I've got a 19 year old doing an 8AM class 4 days a week. She's just coping the best she can. Truth is, she can't really go to bed earlier than midnight because she's got too much homework keeping her up.

 

I suppose I should not, at this point, go into my rant about college professors assigning too much homework and blasting through material too fast and not bothering to do anything useful in their lectures that might actually help a kid understand so the students didn't have to spend hours and hours just attempting to figure out the material before they can even begin on the homework. And no, it's not that my daughter is stupid, because she did just fine in her classes last year that should have been just as hard or harder than the ones she's taking now.

 

No. I didn't just do that.

[Greta Lea]

Weekdays around 11pm. Weekends 11:30-midnight. Edited to add this is NOT a parent-set bedtime.

Edited October 10, 2010 by Greta Lea

[regentrude]

We do not have a set bedtime for 13 y/o DD. She goes to bed when she is tired - usually between 10 and 11pm, but sometimes later.

She has an 8am outside class three days a week, and on the other days home school starts at 8am sharp. If she did not get enough sleep she will be tired and go to bed earlier the next night.

We have been doing this with both children since they were about 8 years old, and it is working well.

 

The one thing I will not allow is sleepovers during the school week - they would just not get enough sleep if they spent the night with their friends.

[Jeannie in NJ]

on her own, my dd has decided to go to bed about 9 and she sleeps until about 9 so I guess 12 hours of sleep is what she needs.

[Teachin'Mine]

 

No. I didn't just do that.

 

 

:lol:

[Krista in LA]

We don't have a bedtime for my nearly 15 yo. She started ps last year and knows what time she has to get up each morning. As long as she is responsible and can get up in the morning without me nagging her, then there is no reason for me to set an arbitrary bedtime. My ds12, on the other hand, still needs one or he won't get up in the morning.

[Murphy101]

Goes to bed around 10 or 10:30 during the week and maybe a bit later on weekends. Very rarely after midnight.

 

Same here

[choirfarm]

That is what I suspected. Around here we are in bed by 9. We might stay up until 10 on weekends. My friends don't call past 9 because they know I will be asleep. My son wishes to stay up to watch football games that don't start until 7, but dh thinks he needs to be in bed by 9 on school nights. I had a meeting one night that happened to run really late at church and i got home at 10 and all lights were out and everyone is asleep. That is normal. Dh often has surgeries at 6:30. I tend to get up at 4am most days and dh 4:30 or 5. I wake the kids up at 7. On Saturedays right now we have to leave for flag football at 8, so they need to be up at 7. We have to leave at 7: 45 for church. So basically we just don't sleep in around here. Even on holidays, everyone I just wake up early and the kids mill around my 8. They can't sleep either. Anyway, I suspected we were weird. I know my son just listened to the rest of the game on the radio. We don't have cable, so it is mainly Sunday night football occasionally. He's only allowed to pick one football game to watch a day. I think at 15, he is old enough to stay up if he wishes. It's hard, though, because the tv is on our end of the house. We certainly won't be staying up. I do good to make it to 9.

 

Christine

[Storm Bay]

That is what I suspected. Around here we are in bed by 9. We might stay up until 10 on weekends. My friends don't call past 9 because they know I will be asleep. My son wishes to stay up to watch football games that don't start until 7, but dh thinks he needs to be in bed by 9 on school nights. I had a meeting one night that happened to run really late at church and i got home at 10 and all lights were out and everyone is asleep. That is normal. Dh often has surgeries at 6:30. I tend to get up at 4am most days and dh 4:30 or 5. I wake the kids up at 7. On Saturedays right now we have to leave for flag football at 8, so they need to be up at 7. We have to leave at 7: 45 for church. So basically we just don't sleep in around here. Even on holidays, everyone I just wake up early and the kids mill around my 8. They can't sleep either. Anyway, I suspected we were weird. I know my son just listened to the rest of the game on the radio. We don't have cable, so it is mainly Sunday night football occasionally. He's only allowed to pick one football game to watch a day. I think at 15, he is old enough to stay up if he wishes. It's hard, though, because the tv is on our end of the house. We certainly won't be staying up. I do good to make it to 9.

 

Christine

 

If it makes you feel any better, the family next door are all in bed by about 9 pm and they have a 17 yo. they also are up very early in the morning. There's nothing wrong with your schedule since it works for your family. Could you record the sports for your ds?

 

However, my dad, who is a surgeon, used to get up early on his own and eat a bowl of cereal for breakfast. He didn't expect my mother to get up with him. However, his regular surgery schedule started later than 6:30 am. Emergency surgery could be any time night or day. (small town and for years he was the only surgeon.) My mother sleeps until 8 and has ever since she didn't have to get up to get us ready for school before that. In fact, when I was on shifts in high school, I got up on my own at 6:30, fed myself & got the bus by myself (that was when parents weren't as protective as they are now. My dd is goin to start getting up early and there's no way I'll let her go by herself to the bus stop at that early hour--but we live in a city)

[Jean in Wisc]

I'm just curious.. what time do you make your 15/16yo go to bed on a school night? weekend? I'll wait to see some responses before I tell you what we are doing.

 

Christine

 

By the time my kids are that age, we discuss how much sleep is recommended (8-10) and how much they usually need (each child differs) and what time he needs to be up and moving in the morning. They have alarm clocks and can do the math.

 

If I find they are not able to crawl out of bed on time, it is because they need more sleep than we thought or they are not going to bed when they need to. We discuss it, and make adjustments to the schedule. I've never had to enforce lights out. I let them choose how late they want to stay up on non-school nights unless it gets in the way of their being able to function on the weekend.

 

So nope. I don't make them go to bed at any given time if they are able to do what they need to do.

[Pamela H in Texas]

My teenagers don't have a bedtime. They go when they want to and based on their responsibilities, just like an adult would. They have, of course, made some mistakes. They've also been a bit "conservative" at other times.

 

I figure it's better for them to work it out at 13, 15, 17yrs old than at 19, 23, 27 when they have college courses to attend, a job at which they are required to be present, children, etc.

 

They are also working out when schooling and other things are best for them. We have done super early schooling and afternoon schooling and the like. Again, to me, better to learn your body, needs, etc when still a kid. If Algebra takes an extra month because an experiment went wrong, fine. If 1/3 of a college term does, someone's gotta pay for it!

 

Different kids do differently at different times also. I'm sure that diet, exercise, hormones, growth spurts, etc all have plenty to do with it also. For a time, my daughter (who, btw, thought 4 hours a night was fine when she was 4 and 8 and such) went to bed about 8pm every night. For a time, my son went to bed at 11pm regularly. Most of the time, we're 9-10pm people though. Most of the time, we're up pretty early.

Edited October 10, 2010 by 2J5M9K

[LuvingLife]

I don't really have a set bedtime either. At 11:00 pm I am doing the next days schoolwork, especially if I know the day is going to be a busy one. After about 14 my mom was like, "You need to go to bed on your own terms now, I am not going to make the decision for you anymore. When you are tired, then go to bed." Well that's how it went for me, as long as I stayed quiet and didn't wake anyone, I could stay awake. Of course I have made dumb mistakes like staying up til 1:00 am in the morning when I had a class early the next day at about 7:00 am.:D Let me tell you that was terrible!:tongue_smilie:

 

But I learned from those mistakes as well. If I have to be somewhere the next day, or I need to get school done early the next day, then I make myself tired during the day and fall asleep real early! This helps me out really well, but if I don't, then it's usually 10:30 or 11:00 pm on school nights, 11:30 on weekends.

[Momof3Maidens]

My dd15 goes to bed at 10:00 and wakes at 7:30. :)

[Ellie]

My 10th graders decided on their own bedtimes.

[Julie in MN]

My 10th graders decided on their own bedtimes.

 

:iagree:

 

But I DO decide that school must begin by 8:30 a.m. and eyes must be open and ready to learn. I don't want to deal with bargaining because he started later and didn't get it done, etc., so he must start by 8:30.

 

I give advice about sleep, and I tighten the rules if the wake-up time isn't being adhered to, but otherwise my youngest (14) sets his own bedtimes and they vary a lot over the 7 days of the week.

 

I do think we're all different and my 3 kids have needed different amounts of sleep and even have had different amounts of insomnia. Thank goodness some folks in this world are night owls -- otherwise the E.R.s we visit in the middle of the night would be full of snoozing staff :)

 

Julie

[choirfarm]

Oh good grief. Dh does NOT expect me to get up. I get up about an hour before him!!!! I just wake up. Yes, everyone gets their own breakfast in the morning. I DO NOT fix everyone breakfast except on Saturdays. And then I alternate with dh who makes fabulous scones and pancakes from scratch. He is a GREAT cook and loves to do so when he has time. His apple pie is to die for. He made a great turkey chili/soup thing with a new kind of cornbread on Saturday. And yes his phone goes off all the time. We live in a small town to and people just call us on the regular phone as well. That is why we travel so much. He can't get away unless we leave!

 

However, my dad, who is a surgeon, used to get up early on his own and eat a bowl of cereal for breakfast. He didn't expect my mother to get up with him. However, his regular surgery schedule started later than 6:30 am. Emergency surgery could be any time night or day. (small town and for years he was the only surgeon.) My mother sleeps until 8 and has ever since she didn't have to get up to get us ready for school before that. In fact, when I was on shifts in high school, I got up on my own at 6:30, fed myself & got the bus by myself (that was when parents weren't as protective as they are now. My dd is goin to start getting up early and there's no way I'll let her go by herself to the bus stop at that early hour--but we live in a city)

[Storm Bay]

Oh good grief. Dh does NOT expect me to get up. I get up about an hour before him!!!! I just wake up. Yes, everyone gets their own breakfast in the morning. I DO NOT fix everyone breakfast except on Saturdays. And then I alternate with dh who makes fabulous scones and pancakes from scratch. He is a GREAT cook and loves to do so when he has time. His apple pie is to die for. He made a great turkey chili/soup thing with a new kind of cornbread on Saturday. And yes his phone goes off all the time. We live in a small town to and people just call us on the regular phone as well. That is why we travel so much. He can't get away unless we leave!

 

 

Sorry, that wasn't meant to be offensive! I realize some families are early to rise people, and was simply giving another scenario. With the multitude of people on here I really don't know everyone who posts here & can't remember what everyone does.

Edited October 11, 2010 by Karin

[Gwenhwyfar]

mine are a bit younger than the stated ages (though dd13 is in 9th and will be 14 very soon) but as we don't have set bedtimes now, i don't see that changing next year... we haven't had set bedtimes for several years. :)

[AngieW in Texas]

Nobody has a set bedtime.

 

The 12th grader is often up later than I am and I go to bed between 12:30 and 1am. I get up at 8:30am. She usually gets up at 9am M-Th because she has dual credit classes at the cc and has to leave the house by 10:10am to get there on time. She sleeps late on Fri-Mon, sometimes as late as noon, but usually just until 10:30-11am.

 

The 10th grader generally goes to bed around 11-11:30pm. She gets up around 8am every day, but occasionally sleeps as late as 8:30am.

 

The 7th grader generally goes to bed around 10:30-11pm. She gets up around 7am every day. She was going to bed earlier (closer to 10pm), but she found that she was waking up at 5am, so she started going to bed later to see if that would help her to sleep later. She has tried going to bed even later to see if she could possibly sleep until 8am, but 7am seems to be as late as she can make herself sleep.

Edited October 11, 2010 by AngieW in Texas

[ereks mom]

:(

[RENEEinVA]

Between 10 and 11:30 every night. A little later on weekends.

[Imprimis]

No bedtime for my 10th grader. She is rarely asleep before midnight, has always been a night owl, and often does some of her school work and reading in the evening.

 

I do take her iPod and phone for the night when I go to bed.

[Mejane]

My 9th-grader (who will be 15 in December) is a night owl but also needs a lot of sleep, so I do make him go to bed at a reasonable hour during the week. He's usually asleep by 11. On weekends he'll stay up until 1 am.

[Gwen in VA]

No bedtime here. I figure teen should handle that part of their lives! We have breakfast together at 7:15, so the only requirements are that you are up for breakfast and that you aren't too tired to function!

 

The 15yo goes to bed before 10 so she can get up at 5:45 -- her choice, not mine.

 

The 17yo goes to bed around midnight.

[Kalypso]

That is what I suspected. Around here we are in bed by 9. We might stay up until 10 on weekends. My friends don't call past 9 because they know I will be asleep. My son wishes to stay up to watch football games that don't start until 7, but dh thinks he needs to be in bed by 9 on school nights. I had a meeting one night that happened to run really late at church and i got home at 10 and all lights were out and everyone is asleep. That is normal. Dh often has surgeries at 6:30. I tend to get up at 4am most days and dh 4:30 or 5. I wake the kids up at 7. On Saturedays right now we have to leave for flag football at 8, so they need to be up at 7. We have to leave at 7: 45 for church. So basically we just don't sleep in around here. Even on holidays, everyone I just wake up early and the kids mill around my 8. They can't sleep either. Anyway, I suspected we were weird. I know my son just listened to the rest of the game on the radio. We don't have cable, so it is mainly Sunday night football occasionally. He's only allowed to pick one football game to watch a day. I think at 15, he is old enough to stay up if he wishes. It's hard, though, because the tv is on our end of the house. We certainly won't be staying up. I do good to make it to 9.

 

Christine

 

You aren't weird. We are all early risers around here, too. My dd15 prefers to be in bed by 9 or 9:30. She likes to get up early and get her work done. I rarely make it past 9 myself. An early schedule works very well for us. Of course, if anyone prefers to sleep in because they need the sleep, they can.

[battlemaiden]

You aren't weird. We are all early risers around here, too. My dd15 prefers to be in bed by 9 or 9:30. She likes to get up early and get her work done. I rarely make it past 9 myself. An early schedule works very well for us. Of course, if anyone prefers to sleep in because they need the sleep, they can.

 

Same here. My oldest 2 (14 and almost 12) have started getting up early so that they can get a subject or two done before the mob descends (I'm convinced I have the loudest children on the planet). They get up, make themselves a cup of tea and get to work before I ever descend. I get up early, but that is when I read in my room.

 

We have had to be creative this year as the work has gotten harder and the house hasn't gotten any bigger. I'm trying to maximize the study time before the little kids get up and during naps.

 

So, yes. We send the kids off to bed around 9. They often read until 10, but they are in their rooms quietly. It is also necessary for me to have "kid-free" time in the evening or mom might lose her mind. :tongue_smilie:

 

Jo

[dirty ethel rackham]

My almost 17yo goes to bed between 10 and 10:30. If he is tired, he may choose earlier - like 9pm. If he is up much later than that, he is pretty much useless the next day. He is naturally an early riser (sleeping in means 8:30 am.) My husband is a firm believer in early to bed and early to rise. Although much of the research out today says that teens naturally have a later circadian rhythm, I believe that this is cultural, not biological (activities crowding out homework time, electronic media, etc.) This is not universal across cultures. My 14yo has always had more trouble falling asleep and getting up in the morning.

[LittleHouseHomeschool]

I've got a 19 year old doing an 8AM class 4 days a week. She's just coping the best she can. Truth is, she can't really go to bed earlier than midnight because she's got too much homework keeping her up.

 

I suppose I should not, at this point, go into my rant about college professors assigning too much homework and blasting through material too fast and not bothering to do anything useful in their lectures that might actually help a kid understand so the students didn't have to spend hours and hours just attempting to figure out the material before they can even begin on the homework. And no, it's not that my daughter is stupid, because she did just fine in her classes last year that should have been just as hard or harder than the ones she's taking now.

 

No. I didn't just do that.

 

 

:SNORT: All I can say is that our children must have similar professors. :mad:

[AnitaMcC]

I'm just curious.. what time do you make your 15/16yo go to bed on a school night? weekend? I'll wait to see some responses before I tell you what we are doing.

 

Christine

 

My 10th grade twins don't have a bedtime... well, not officially. They are generally in bed by midnight. They really like having the time after their younger brothers are in bed as their quiet time and get to use computer and tv at their leisure. Dd has sleep issues so she take melatonin to help her.

 

The main thing is they are expected to get enough sleep that when I wake them in morning, they aren't behaving like hybernating bears.

 

School days I wake them up at 8am, they start school at 9am. Weekends they get up when they need to if they are going somewhere... or they sleep in. They tend to stay up till 1-2 am on non-school nights.

 

Ds often wants to stay up past midnight as he generally needs less sleep. He has always been that way though. He does well on 6 hours of sleep, but occassionally he does need to sleep longer. I rather he go to bed by midnight and sleep until he wakes up on his own (often around 6-7 am) or I get him up at 8am. He rather stay up till he nearly falls asleep standing-LOL.

[regentrude]

I've got a 19 year old doing an 8AM class 4 days a week. She's just coping the best she can. Truth is, she can't really go to bed earlier than midnight because she's got too much homework keeping her up.

 

I suppose I should not, at this point, go into my rant about college professors assigning too much homework and blasting through material too fast and not bothering to do anything useful in their lectures that might actually help a kid understand so the students didn't have to spend hours and hours just attempting to figure out the material before they can even begin on the homework. And no, it's not that my daughter is stupid, because she did just fine in her classes last year that should have been just as hard or harder than the ones she's taking now.

 

 

How much time does she have to spend on the class?

The reason I am asking is that I frequently hear students complain about the amount of homework - but they do not realize that for a four hour class they are expected to work on average 8 hours outside of class. Now if they leave the homework till the night before it is due, then yes, they sit forever. I am not saying that your DD is like this - I just wanted to make sure she has a realistic picture of the workload college professors expect form students: 2 hours out of class for every hour in class. Some classes get away with less, but these are considered the easy ones.

[Hunter's Moon]

I used to sleep in and just do schoolwork whenever the mood struck me. I always got all my work done, but hated in the evenings when I had to tell friends I couldn't go out with them because my schoolwork wasn't done.

 

Now, I set my alarm for 7:30. I start school at 9.

 

I like early morning and late night, so I had to choose one or the other. Early morning is quieter around here, so I chose then.

 

I used to stay up until 2 or 3am. The latest was 5am. As long as I was quiet, it was okay.

 

Now though, I tend to fall asleep by 11ish, if not early.

 

I remember when I was little, from the time I was like 6 until I was 12, I ALWAYS went to bed by 6, if not earlier. My mom used to beg me to stay up later so I didn't get up at 5. I wish I still had that problem...:tongue_smilie: