Marie in Oh Posted January 22, 2008 Share Posted January 22, 2008 We are participating in a Latin co-op on Tuesdays. Me and another mom teach. 2 others drop off their kids. I bring another boy whose mom watches my littles. It has been working well. . .except. . . the mom who watches my littles brings her other 2 here. Her littlest is 2 and, well, he is a problem. Last week he bit my 3 yo dd, broke a picture frame, and pumped lotion all over my bedroom floor in an hour and 15 minutes. I am not sure what to do. Would you back out of the co-op or arrange other child care or what? I am at a loss. Thanks for being a sounding board. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dayle in Guatemala Posted January 22, 2008 Share Posted January 22, 2008 I would talk to her about that time of the week not being a good time for her to drop off her little ones. Arrange with her a different time to watch them for her as an exchange. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marie in Oh Posted January 22, 2008 Author Share Posted January 22, 2008 Maybe I wasn't clear-- she watches my littles and hers while I take our older kids to co-op. The only way I can teach is by having my little ones taken care of. Does that make sense? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peek a Boo Posted January 22, 2008 Share Posted January 22, 2008 would you consider dropping your kid off at HER house, or are there other concerns there? I have a feeling that there are other issues, and in that case, I'd arrange to find someone else to watch my kids and just pick up her co-op kid. I'd probably spin it as "an opportunity came up" --that this otehr person could "really use the experience/money/whatever" and that this will "save her the trouble" and be a "win win" lol. Good luck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dayle in Guatemala Posted January 22, 2008 Share Posted January 22, 2008 I got that, I guess I wasn't clear!!!! What I meant to say was, thank her for taking your dc during the time you are teaching co-op and arrange a time to watch her's during a time you aren't teaching co-op. I hope that makes sense, I'm a little fuzzy today!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gamom3 Posted January 22, 2008 Share Posted January 22, 2008 Is there an older sibling that does not attend the class that might be able to watch them and make $5 or so a week? This would not be ok with me! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted January 22, 2008 Share Posted January 22, 2008 Is the biting a regular thing? It does bother me that he was alone in your house long enough to pump lotion on your bedroom floor--maybe because it's not her house and she doesn't know the risks in your house, if that makes sense. I mean, I know if my boy disappears in my house, he might get into lotion in my bedroom. But if my boy disappears in a friends house, he might be finding a bottle of medicine to eat, or a gun to play with (but I'm paranoid :(). If you feel safe leaving your kids with her, I'd lock bedroom doors and ask her to keep the kids in the playroom (or whatever a safe room is). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marie in Oh Posted January 22, 2008 Author Share Posted January 22, 2008 He has been excused a number of times from our church's nursery for biting. My 1st grader is here and says the mom is on the computer or eating her lunch (which she brings with her) while here. I just think it is a supevision thing. My house is not dangerous-- my kids just know what is ok and what is not. There is not medicince laying around where kids can get into it, but I do leave a pump of lotion by my bed. My kids know not to get into that. I don't think it isn't that my house isn't safe, but rather, that the 2 yo isn't watched. I wouldn't let my kids wander into someone's master bedroom, let alone be there long enough to pump lotion everywhere. What it seems, is that it is either she watches my kids or we don't do this co-op. We have benefited from it, so it is sad, but I am not sure what else to do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenn in Mo Posted January 22, 2008 Share Posted January 22, 2008 I don't think the implication was that your house is not safe, but that the other mom couldn't know that. It was more a question of her ability to be fully responsible for the children in her care if she lets children wander into what could be (as far as she knows) potentially dangerous situations. If the possibility of danger doesn't occur to her...what else might she miss? Child choking? Baby in the toilet? Fire? Us paranoid moms think through these things - lol! I vote new sitter. Without a doubt. We're not talking about an exorbitant amount of time here. I would not want a 2 hour sitter on the computer or on the phone or on the tv - I'd want them supervising or interacting with my kids. I'm not totally opposed to someone watching tv or reading a book....as long as they also have an eye or an ear on the kids. Zoned and unaware is a problem. Biting is a problem. Not worth the worry, imo. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marie in Oh Posted January 22, 2008 Author Share Posted January 22, 2008 Sorry, not implying that JudoMom was implying that. I just was trying to show that it was not my kids or my house, but her kid and her lack of supervision. It is just so frustrating that a mother of 5 can't be trusted to watch your kids. Yeah, did I mention that? She has five. I am not saying she is not of good mom-- just too laxed for this situation. And she is a good friend-- not a busom friend, but someone I enjoy. I think if I say something, she will be offended. Oh my. All this for Latin. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted January 22, 2008 Share Posted January 22, 2008 Can you restrict what rooms she and the kids can be in? Like only the kitchen, bath and LR? Good luck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adrianne Posted January 22, 2008 Share Posted January 22, 2008 may be she can watch the little ones at her home instead? The 2yo might be more comfortable at home. I do not know her but it is doubtful she can control the 2yo in your home. What kind of care can she give all the kids if she is chasing a 2yo around? .....Or find other child care. A good co-op that works well for you is hard to find. Adrianne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted January 22, 2008 Share Posted January 22, 2008 Sorry, not implying that JudoMom was implying that. I just was trying to show that it was not my kids or my house, but her kid and her lack of supervision. It is just so frustrating that a mother of 5 can't be trusted to watch your kids. Yeah, did I mention that? She has five. I am not saying she is not of good mom-- just too laxed for this situation. And she is a good friend-- not a busom friend, but someone I enjoy. I think if I say something, she will be offended. Oh my. All this for Latin. Oh my, I hope it didn't sound like I was implying that I didn't think your home was safe! It was her kid and lack of supervision I was trying to comment on :o. I do hope you're able to figure something out that will work for all involved. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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