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  • Birthday 06/25/1985

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    Lincoln NE
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  1. I probably have ADHD. You just described a good day for me. I get it, it's frustrating. I agree tomorrow is a new day, the sleep should help.
  2. When my grandpa went on hospice it just meant that he was no longer provided medical treatment to extend his life, just palliative care. His life in assisted living was unchanged. He died of a series of strokes over a few days.
  3. I made him a doctor's appointment, so hopefully he can help. He and I are just so frustrated.
  4. He was using the wrong word. It is always diarrhea, or at least loose uncomfortable poops.
  5. My ds11 has been having poop problems off and on for a year or two. He has loose uncomfortable poops especially in the morning. The problem tends to improve over the course of the day. So his first poop of the day early in the morning tends to be a problem, and by lunchtime he is fine. He has no nausea, everything is intestinal. I have the impression that it has gone away for months at a time, and then come back. Last year he kept telling me he was constipated when he meant he had diarrhea which added to the confusion. As far as diet is concerned, he is my best eater. He eats his fruits and vegetables and what not. I keep eliminating foods that seem to cause major problems. Spicy food, fried chicken and taco bell are currently on his never list. Avoiding problem foods and eating healthy definitely helps, but does not solve the problem. I am a single mom so don't always do home cooked meals. I do try. He eats oatmeal, fruit, frozen waffles, cold cereal or school breakfast. He eats a school lunch. Dinner is often a good home cooked meal, but several times a week may be restaurant food, pizza, mac & cheese etc. Lately I have been giving him probiotics. When it is bad I let him take a Imodium. The other factor is anxiety. He has always been a child prone to worrying, and being overly sensitive. He is also my child who doesn't readily tell me when he has a problem. His father died 1 year and a half ago. We did a family grief support group, I haven't noticed any trouble grieving. But there is a definite correlation he never had trouble before his father died. I put him in public school last year. On the balance he likes it and doesn't seem to have any problems there. The counselor did a group for children who were stressed, and that seemed to provide him an outlet. If it weren't for the bathroom problems I would say his anxiety is not needing treatment. The bathroom problems are causing significant anxiety though. He worries about pooping his pants, and scheduling his bathroom breaks, and taking too many breaks. I have contacted his teacher and she has agreed to be liberal with bathroom access. He has extra pants in his backpack. There is a correlation between anxiety and bathroom trouble, but I don't know if the anxiety is causing the poop problem. Or is it just when he is having trouble he is anxious about that. So do I take him to the doctor with vague symptoms? Do I try to get him in therapy or anxiety drugs? I just want him to feel better.
  6. I was 22 and married. My husband had inherited some savings bonds when his grandpa died. We used them for the down payment. Now I live in the tiny starter home with 3 kids.
  7. When I was in 8th Grade I took a high school class 1st period, then a bus driver drove 2 other middle schoolers & I in a minivan to the middle school for the rest of our day. One day we came out to leave and she was dead. Like apparently drove to the high school perfectly fine, parked, then just died. The school was so weird about it, because she could have been driving us.
  8. My cats had their shots mid-December. No shortage was mentioned. (US)
  9. I like them because they don't chip and barely break. They are lightweight and store in a small area. The con is definitely that when they do break they shatter into a million microscopic shards. We do occasionally get "dish splinters," no matter how well I clean up. I have the standard winter white because it goes with everything and will always be available.
  10. I think it is very important for children's play areas to be well maintained. Most of my playground injuries were from sharp or pinchy places on old worn equipment. I also support the softer playground substrates that are popular now. But I agree with the general premise: children need to take risks, and problem solve. I don't know what to do about parents/adults differing comfort levels with risk. Like I am not worried about stranger abduction, but I am super careful with car safety. If I have to grit my teeth when you strap your toddler in wearing a huge snowsuit, you have to keep quiet when I let mine wander around the toy department in Target. (We had an incident with a worried lady, and my 8 year old last weekend and I'm still salty). If an adult thinks a child is truly in danger I do want them to protect them. Stop the toddler from running out in the street, please. But on the other hand children and their parents are so often chastised when they haven't done anything wrong. And I do worry about the whole reporting me to CPS angle.
  11. Totally is still a thing. If I don't text at all in a given month I don't pay for texting at all (that rarely happens any more). First text of the month I pay $3 for 100 texts. I have never gone over 100 texts in a month. I get texts for kids activities and usually a few junk texts. I think it is fair.
  12. I feel like I can't tell if clothing is quality before I buy it. It isn't like spending more ensures quality. It is my intention to buy things that will last. I have three boys, so that is how long kids clothes should last. For myself clothes are something to wear and nothing more. So spending money for fashion isn't a thing for me. I think the thing that annoys me the most is zippers. We have had winter coats that were perfectly fine to pass down to the younger brothers, except the zipper is broken. My jeans & hoodies too, it's always the zipper that ends their life. Why make a good hard-wearing pair of jeans, and put a crappy zipper in it?
  13. My big piece of advice is to have all the important conversations now. We were a morbid couple, so we talked about under what conditions we would want to live or die. We want to be organ donors, we want to be cremated, save money on the funeral etc. It was so comforting to have those decisions already made. I was able to have a simple funeral without regret. We also discussed all our thoughts on raising teens, even though we didn't have any yet. So I can have a better idea what he would have wanted. The other thing I would say. Make sure you have a plan for all the online stuff. My husband used a super secure password manager, and had not turned on the emergency feature (that would have allowed them to give me access when he died). When we were first in the hospital, and I thought he would be fine, I cracked a joke about how if he died I would be locked out of everything since I didn't have the master password. He gave it to me, (I can't stress enough how weird that is). It was a joke, so I didn't write it down or anything, but I was able to remember it when I needed to. I am so grateful for that in bad taste joke.
  14. I am sorry for your loss too. What is it with undiagnosed heart conditions? Yes I agree with enjoying life in the present.
  15. A topic for me! I lost my husband unexpectedly May 2022. I was completely blindsided. He was 38 and as far as we knew in good health. He wasn't like a fitness bro or anything. But he was able to do a day at the zoo and bike to work and everything. Anyway he died of congestive heart failure. It was a week between him being referred to a cardiologist by our GP (he was having trouble sleeping) to me taking him off life support. I am so so glad that I married young, we had a blissful 15 year marriage. But the idea that it might have to sustain me for 50 or more years, terrifies me. Because I married young, I had never adulted without him. It is nice to know I can, I had always wondered. Then there is the issue of my kids. My youngest was 6. You aren't supposed to lose your daddy when you are 6. I am learning that having a very involved daddy that loved you for six years, is better than having a bad dad or a dad that abandoned you. So there is that.
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